A teenager “Rohini”(name changed) was behaving little different since few days. She was not eating properly, she was avoiding contact with any of her family members, she was having emotional outbursts, she was losing her temper on silly things. Her parents were very annoyed with her behaviour, they were having frequent arguments with each other. Parents were concerned but however were not trying to understand the reason behind Rohini’s behavior. As a result lack of communication was increasing the problems between them.
- According to you what should Rohini’s parent do?
- How they can help Rohini ?
- What might have changed Rohini’s usual behavior?
We need to understand that before expecting the appropriate behavior from our children we should be first be aware about the changes(physical, emotional, social) they go through .So, the first question we need to ask ourselves is that “Are we aware about the changes children go through? ”
Some of you might say that you are aware about the changes but is that enough “Do we accept the changes children go through ?”
This is not the end even after accepting “Do we try to approach and address the concerns to them ?”
These are the important 3 A’s of parenting. We keep saying that teenagers are complicated , but we need to think over it that they complicated or it’s that we fail to play our roles .
Let’s try and go back to the Rohini’s case she was behaving differently but did her parents tried to understand the change in the behavior, were they that children go through these changes(biological or emotional) at this age, if they were aware did they tried to approach to Rohini.
Our role as a parent is not to pass judgment or remarks. But, we all can be a mentor and facilitator to make the transition easier for our children.
Reflection :
Am I aware about the changes a teenager goes through during the transition ? If yes please mention?
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